It’s been a while since my last post, and oddly enough, this one is inspired by a movie I watched tonight. I’ll admit it, it was the new Amanda Bynes movie on Family Channel. She isn’t a great actress by any means, but she actually seems like a semi-real person. Anyway, it wasn’t so much the fact that it was her movie, but part of the plot in the movie.
If you’ve ever watched a movie targeted at the teen market (that wasn’t just a sexual foray), you’ve seen the plot of two people who have been friends for a long time, one of them likes the other, but the other person doesn’t like them as more than a friend and is oblivious to the fact the other person likes them. The second person ends up liking someone else for a while and the first person goes on watching the relationship without saying anything. Then something in the first person just kind of snaps and they let out all of their true feelings about the second person and there is a brief time of awkwardness and then they get together and are happy because they both realize they are right for each other. OK, so that’s the subplot of a lot of movies.
For those of you that don’t know, I’m one of those weird guys that you could call a hopeless (or maybe helpless) romantic. While the stereotype may be that it’s girls that are into that kind of thing, I know plenty of guys that are too. I have desires and goals or whatever you want to call it about future girls/relationships. For example, I don’t want to kiss a girl until I’m married, and I know the girl that agrees and wants that too for herself is out there; and I want a relationship to be like what I see in movies, kind of like the plot I described above. I think it would be really amazing for that kind of thing to happen.
But seriously, I wonder how many girls and guys are in that kind of friendship where one of them likes the other but the other person is completely unaware of it. And how does it make the one person feel? My guess is that it’s probably a load of fun for the person–walking around with a secret like that and not able to tell the other person. Based on all the movies I’ve seen with this scenario the person settles for friendship until either there is some kind of change in the other person, or they watch the other person go through several relationships and just can’t stand it anymore.
This is what I imagine they would write to Dear Abby.
“Dear Abby, I’ve liked this person for a few years. We’ve been good friends for a long time. I don’t think the other person knows about my feelings for them, and I’m not sure they are mutual, but I just can’t get over my feelings. What should I do? Sincerely, Mr/Ms Dazed and Confused”.
Now your turn, what’s Abby’s response? Like Hillary Clinton said, “let’s chat” (I don’t support Hillary by quoting her for the record). I’m interested in seeing what you have to say about this, if anything. Ever been in a similar situation?
I dont think that that sounds like “a load of fun” for that person who has to carry around that secret at all. It sounds perfectly sad and secretly pining away for the other wont be helping anyone and probably will ruin the friendship in the long run since there were so many misunderstandings to begin with. Anyway, just sounds sad. I always am feeling sorry for those characters in all those movies.